Fear of Commitment

Posted on May 15 2009

People who are described as having a ‘Fear of Commitment’ within relationships often find it difficult to make decisions in general. These could include deciding to take a course, where to go on vacation, or even what to eat in a restaurant.

Although these decisions may seem small compared to relationship commitment, they all involve the same mental processes - making a decision that will have an impact on the future - whether short-term or long-term.

This fear of commitment, to whatever decision, can really hold you back because it is only be committing to a course of action that life progresses and we are able to make the most of opportunities that come our way.

A higher level of fear of commitment was found to be related to anxiety, self-esteem, and career indecision and also to “floundering”.

Some activities that can help you get over your fear, try

–to distinguish the yes anxiety from healthy caution break with self-defeating attitudes

–try to see the best when it’s less than perfect

–try to deal with mood swings and personal cycles

–confront the fear of success by trying small steps to small successess and build on them

–make commitments with confidence, commitment to one thing every day and build on it

–do not allow yourself to become over-committed or over-scheduled so that you have time for yourself

We all find it difficult to find enough time in the day to do everything we want. We often end up putting our strongest needs at the bottom of the list. See the other Decision Pitfalls.

This barrier is related to the fear of commitment. Committing to certain goals may put you in a position to make difficult decisions and limit potential options. These strategies will help you keep your positive energy and your motivation strong and it will allow you to concentrate on making the best decisions to achieve your goals.

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